The thing about confidence

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I’m not a psychologist or anything, but I have to tell you, there’s something to be said for confidence at any age, but especially in childhood. I don’t know how much you remember about your childhood but from what I recall, and from what I’ve observed in my kids, confidence is the thing that separates the mice from the men.

Do you remember the confident children in school? I revered them and there was a good reason for this, because confidence implies experience in something. For a kid, experience is the most valuable social currently there is.

So why am I going on about confidence?

Because in the last two weeks, I saw it happen before my very eyes with my five-year-old, and I really hadn’t expected that. In my previous post, I shared a particular fear I had about how bedwetting may be affecting her. Not physically, but emotionally – and particularly when it came to her self-image. We forget that children also hate waking up in a puddle of their own urine, and that’s why they try to hide it.

“To my great surprise and relief, these pants seem to have given her confidence.”

About two weeks ago, I agreed to try out and review the DryNites Pyjama Pants. They’re pull-on elastic pants with a “nappy-like” inner but with the absolutely genius addition of a “Frozen” theme image (Spider-man for the boys) on the front. At first, I was genuinely worried that introducing these into the scenario was going to cause her to be dependent on them, the way children who just start potty training might be on nappies.

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But no, to my great surprise and relief, these pants seem to have given her confidence. She wears them with pride, and for the past four nights has proudly announced in the mornings that “It is dry again!”

And so, I reckon I’ll be able to phase them out and just keep a few in the cupboard as a kind of back-up in case of a relapse.

I should mention (once again) that I’m no expert and I know that every kid is different, but I’m honestly blown away by how this experiment turned out. I can highly recommend that parents of kiddies who are still occasionally bedwetting just give it a try for two weeks, because I often think as adults we forget that these “small victories” are actually huge achievements for our children.

This article has been shared by Cathrine Versfeld on her blog.

Also read:

Bedwetting: When to consult a doctor
Bedwetting tips from Dr Michael Mol