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Whether you’re sleeping with someone new or have been with the same partner for years, you CAN have amazing sex – you just need to be aware of these common sex mistakes that we ALL make. Enjoy!

Sex mistake #1: Worrying too much

About your love handles, if your labia looks ‘normal’, what you sound like… Women tend to obsess about things that their partners probably don’t even notice. Usually, men are just focusing on ‘the bigger picture’: the fact that you’re excited to have sex with him. The sexiest thing you can wear in the bedroom? Confidence.

Solution: Stop overthinking (yes, we know it’s easier said than done) and just enjoy yourself.

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Sex mistake #2: Not taking responsibility for your own orgasm

It’s not fair to put the responsibility for your orgasm solely in his hands – your partner is not a mind reader. Nobody knows your body like you do (well, you should – if not, now’s the time to get to know yourself intimately), so take ownership of your own pleasure. Besides, two… um… hands are better than one!

Solution: Explore your own body and don’t be embarrassed to tell your partner what you want – half the trick to having great sex lies in being able to communicate effectively.

Sex mistake #3: Thinking that there’s a ‘right’ way to do things

There really ISN’T a right way to do things and if you’re so concerned about your technique and trying to do the ‘right’ things, you’re not paying attention to the cues your partner’s putting out. Also, if you’re so wrapped up in the mechanical side of things, you completely miss out on the emotional aspects involved in sex.

Solution: Forget what you’ve learnt about sex and pay attention to the signals your partner’s putting out – that will give you a better idea of what to do next than a textbook ever will.

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Sex mistake #4: Having an orgasm as your end goal

Remember that sex can still be pleasurable even if one – or both – of you don’t orgasm. And the more pressure there is to orgasm, the more stressed out you’ll feel and the less likely it is to happen.

Solution: Relax and think of sex as a journey and not a destination.

 

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