Our early arrival

Bruche De Bruin is a huge fan of the BabyYumYum Facebook page and website. She reveals how informative and helpful she found the #1 parenting portal, in particular, the notes on breastfeeding and the importance thereof. This is why …

The moment we found out we were pregnant, we were just in absolute awe and overwhelmed with joy. From day one, we couldn’t wait to meet our precious gift from above. To be honest, we told all our friends and family before any blood tests or scans could confirm the pregnancy (I was 5 weeks pregnant at the time).

“All I could do was make him feel my love and, most importantly, give him my breast milk so that he would grow healthy enough to come home.”

I immediately downloaded any app related to pregnancy as, being first pregnancy, there was a lot I didn’t know. I knew I was pregnant and that it would take nine months for us to meet this little person, our little person.

Elijah was due on 12 May 2017, but life doesn’t always go according to plan and I could only carry my baby boy for 28 weeks due to ruptured membranes. He was born on 21 February 2017 and weighed just 1 090kg, and we were so blessed that the Netcare Parklane Hospital doctors and nurses took such good care of him until he was ready to come home.

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This was quite a challenging, educational and emotional ride, as I am sure it is for any mommy with a prem baby. Leaving him in the hospital and being able to do nothing for him, as well as going home to his empty room were particularly difficult.

I felt hopeless and demotivated, believing that I wasn’t spending enough time with him or that I wasn’t doing enough as his mother. All I could do was make him feel my love and, most importantly, give him my breast milk so that he would grow healthy enough to come home.

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Expressing every two to three hours was the most daunting task I’ve ever had to do. It felt completely pointless and I wanted to give up many times. Elijah didn’t tolerate feeds in the beginning, so there was a time he was fed TPN, taking feeds through a tube. Also, he wasn’t with me every two to three hours when I needed to express.

Luckily, we were blessed with wonderful nursing staff and family (and even community posts) to encourage me to breastfeed and educate me on the benefits. I soon found it much easier to express and I was encouraged knowing that it was the best thing I could do to help my little boy grow strong and healthy.

Elijah came home in May (around his actual due date!) and we were so excited. Every day was different – he had his strong days and his not-so-strong days. Despite that, I was positive that our little boy would get through it all and soon feel and experience the love and joy that he deserved.

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