How has being raised by strict parents affected you as an adult? A Twitter thread on this topic went viral & the insights are eye-opening. Recently Twitter user @Miss_Calita asked her followers how growing up with very strict parents has affected them now as adults, and the responses are eye opening.
People that were raised by extremely strict parents, how has that affected you as an adult?
— Andisiwe not andiswa (@Miss_Calita) September 20, 2021
People had a LOT to say – and so many seemed to have similar experiences, including struggling with people pleasing behaviour and difficulty handling confrontation…
– I can’t handle confrontation
– I don’t often express my emotions
– People pleaser
– I don’t enjoy staying out late
– I don’t have a lot of friends
– Constantly thinking I’m being judged
– Concerned about what people think of me
— B. (@biancaaboni) September 21, 2021
…feeling socially awkward and like they’re ‘inconveniencing’ people.
Don't like explaining myself, cause i've concluded that you won't believe.
Curiously bothered why are you with me could be friendship or relationship
Hate inconveniencing people
— Sphelele (@sphe_praise32) September 21, 2021
It’s not entirely surprising that those raised by strict parents say they have developed a problem with authority and being told what to do…
I have problem with authority, I don't like being told what to do
— Faith🌸 (@KhensaniF) September 21, 2021
Some even continue to enforce the rules they grew up with…
I have a curfew – I don’t even live with my parents. When the sun sets and I’m still on these streets I panic and I need to rush home. 🙈
— Mmasago (@Ama_M93) September 21, 2021
A few shared experiences of being bullied at school.
1. I found it difficult to stand up for myself
2. It took me years to understand that my opinion matters
3. I became a people pleaser because I lived to be a good child
4. I behaved out of fear and not respect
5. It made me timid and I got bullied in primary
— Lady Macbeth (@bestlifeof) September 21, 2021
1. Everyone at home still thinks I'm a kid, even though I have two of my own. They think I'm too soft.
2. I don't like socializing for too long(I spent most of my years in my room)
3. I struggle to voice my thoughts and feelings.
4. I'm a perfectionist
5. I calculate everything.
— Mrs Keeeeeevin.🧡 (@OBanyini) September 21, 2021
A few say their strict upbringing has affected how they approach parenthood themselves.
An enormous amount of therapy, self correcting and anxiety. It wasn’t even about strict, it was control and I don’t think I was very liked or wanted. It created real trauma for me. I am so conscious not to treat my son like that.
— jetsundolma (@TaraDomOs) September 22, 2021
Major social anxiety.
Too introverted, shy and awkward.
Unable to take risks.
Don't trust easily.
Struggle to make friends.
No friends to hang out with.
I feel suffocated.
I have a temper due to a lot of stuff I bottle up.
— Rea…💎 (@ReabetsweAdora) September 21, 2021
– I'm a liar.
– I don't tell people what I'm going through.
– I'm too kind & helpful to a point where I come out as a bit pathetic because I know how being unkind to feels like.
— Margo Roth Spiegelman ❤️ (@HowsYourSoulBro) September 21, 2021
i hide my problems from people, i have trouble making choices because i'm scared of picking wrong and making people upset, i dont tell people about my interests for fear of looking dumb, and i say "-if that's okay" nonstop in case people are lying about being cool with things :p
— þemboii 🔞 (@themboii) September 22, 2021